What He Thinks during the No Contact Rule: 15 Possibilities (2024)

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What does he think during no contact? ›

He might begin to feel panicked.

He'll realize that playing it cool and not reaching out to you aren't working, and that you've put your foot down on “no contact.” He wants you to feel the same way he does, but if he doesn't see any sign of you hurting or moving on, he'll be very confused.

The male mind during no contact

The no contact rule male psychology forces him to recognize his loneliness. After a breakup, if you stop contacting him, he will feel free and enjoy this phase as much as he can. But, with time, the loneliness and guilt pang will start to kick in.

On average, it takes men about 8 weeks to miss their ex after a breakup. This can vary depending on the length and intensity of the relationship. You can tell he misses you if he texts or calls frequently, talks to other people about you, and invites you out to do things with him.

Men respond to no contact because of the curiosity present in every human. This curiosity pushes your partner to return so he can know why you behaved as you did. For instance, when someone suddenly stops speaking to you, it's expected that you find out why they act that way.

Frequently Asked Questions. Will my ex-boyfriend forget about me if I don't contact him? It's unlikely that an ex will forget about you, even if you don't communicate with them after the breakup.

Either that distraction is jumping into a rebound relationship with someone else, or going back to you, or immersing themselves into some sort of job and swearing off relationships altogether for a little while. So typically, your ex won't start missing you until around two to three whole months after the breakup.

The kind of girl guys regret losing is the self-assured girl. The self-assured girl is confident, independent, and knows her worth. She doesn't rely on others for validation and is secure in who she is. Guys regret losing her because she brings a sense of stability and strength to the relationship.

1 For an amicable breakup: around 30 days. 2 For a long-term relationship: at least 60 days. 3 If things got ugly at the end: roughly 90 days. 4 For an especially toxic separation: indefinitely.

Below are some signs your ex might want you back: They still “like” and comment on your social media posts. They're posting things on social media only you would understand. They make an excuse to communicate with you.

What goes through a guy's mind when he checks you out? ›

Guys typically scan your body if they think you're attractive or they're trying to flirt with you. He might also be checking you out because he's too shy to approach you. Watch for other flirtatious body language signals, like prolonged eye contact or leaning in toward you.

1 He thinks you're busy. 2 He's trying to brush it off. 3 He might think you're playing “hard to get.” 4 He's worried you're ignoring him because you're upset.

While initiating the breakup provides a sense of control, the no contact rule may bring forth a fear of losing that control. The dumper may grapple with the unpredictability of the dumpee's actions or emotions during this period, challenging their perception of control over the situation.

This can be a natural part of processing the grief that comes with this kind of loss. We can't expect ourselves to turn our feelings off and on like a lightbulb, so it's important to be patient with yourself if you still don't know how to stop thinking about someone.

What happens when you stop chasing a man? He may start missing you. No more frequent random calls or text messages to catch his attention, and he can start to miss you. He may figure out he enjoyed your attention and the feeling that somebody out there cared for him.